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What a woman really wants from a relationship
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What a woman really wants from a relationship Can Only Speak For Me Truth Is... I've never had a man in my life that spoiled me. Never had a relationship that even came close to it. I have had many friends that were quite happy with their men who spoiled them and from all I could see, the relationship worked very well. Not to come off bitter here, but I was lucky if the men in my life even remembered my birthday or even holidays that we are bombarded with commercials, sales, etc. My problem, and yes, I'll call it a problem, is that I'm not very materialistic and never asked for anything from the men in my life - hence, I got my wish. Nuthin. As I start over in this world of Dating, I am rethinking that approach with men now. The Old School Do women want to go back to the Old School way of thinking, where men open doors for them and pull out their chairs? Where the women just do the cooking and cleaning, while the men bring home the bacon? I seriously doubt we'll ever want to go back to those days - for one, we can't afford it. Nowadays, women have to work, unless of course the man incurs a huge income. Best Of Both Worlds I think women want the old way of being treated - having doors opened and so forth, but they don't want to be tethered to the kitchen and only see the light of day when they go outside to empty the mop bucket. Sharing in household task and duty seems to work well and the happiest marriages I have seen are when both the man and the woman pitch in around the house - especially with the . With women working long hours just like the men do, it's only fair it be that way. So how do we get back to the man taking care of his woman when she is out there working and paying half the mortgage? The answer is simple to me - it's all about attitude and of course, communication. By the time I tried to communicate to my ex that he wasn't fulfilling my needs to feel special in his life, it was too late. I should have expressed my needs way earlier in our marriage instead of just sitting there waiting for him to finally see the light and start spoiling me but I didn’t and he found someone that did. When I think about that now - I can see how ridiculous that was of me to do. Never again. Spoil Me! Yes, I want to be spoiled, but I don't want to be kept. I want to be made to feel special, but I don't want feel as though I am in debt towards a man because of what he gives me. There is a fine line with all this. I want to whip up gourmet dinners for my man - I don't want to feel as though I have to. I want to have him spoil me, but I refuse to be his possession. Some men get that mixed up and maybe some women do also... We've Come A Long Way Baby! Yep - women have ripped that apron off, burned their bras and fought for their right to join the work force and work their ass off just like the men do. Is it what we really wanted? I am a single parent for about 3 years now, working full-time and going to school, not getting a dime of support. Has the women's movement caused men to turn heel and walk away from their responsibility shrugging their shoulders thinking, "Let them handle it, that's what they wanted." What are your thoughts on all this? Is 50/50 best, being the way things have evolved or is there room relationships where the man still spoils his lady? I'd like to think so...[/COLOR] Falling in love is easy, but staying in love is something very special. |
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It seems to me you must be attracting the none committal type of guy, you don't need. Demand more from the slugs or dump them. A women should always expect her man to worship her. If he doesn't kick him to the street and don't give in to him and find another. A lady of your intuition and beauty deserves more. Don't settle for loneliness. Hotrod
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10/26/2008 9:53 am |
Nice post. You're not asking for too much. It's what you deserve. Love, Light, Laughter, Leave a Legacy, Greg
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Nice post. You're not asking for too much. It's what you deserve.  Falling in love is easy, but staying in love is something very special.
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10/28/2008 10:03 am |
hmmm i wonder too. maybe your not letting him spoil you.
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hmmm i wonder too. maybe your not letting him spoil you. I wish he would step forward and let himself known  Falling in love is easy, but staying in love is something very special.
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