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Finding Her Orgasm
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Finding Her Orgasm I’m frequently looking for new ways to pleasure my very sexxxy fiancée. We have an incredible bond. We’ve known each other since we were six. We have a unique set of preferences that make us physically and emotionally perfect for one another. She has a sexual preference for females and an emotional preference for effeminate men. If you’ve checked out a few of my photographs – you’ll see that we’re a match made by what we call “The Universe”. While I’ve been extraordinarily fortunate to give my fiancée multiple orgasms in the bedroom I’m always doing my research looking to expand my fantasies and encourage her to explore and enjoy new sexual desires and scenarios. I was very happy to discover that she loves hardcore BDSM videos and encourages me to invent and submit her to new devices for which to experience orgasm.  I have promised not to divulge the most sacred of her desires in my blog however there are plenty of things that I can discuss without breaching my promise. She has expressed desires of being watched by others having sex, or being bound in compromising positions so that she can service friends and strangers alike. I always encourage her to come forth with her darkest fantasies and encourage her give me to ability to make many of them come true. Several months ago my fiancée and I came down with a severe chest cold. She used Benadryl and other anti- histamine concoctions so that she could get through her work day. Eventually her doctor put her on long term does of prescription anti-biotics and anti-histamines. Getting sick messes with the libido. The frequency and duration of our lovemaking changed dramatically. We went from about an hour a day to almost two and a half hours every few days. I’d either have to stop due to exhaustion, orgasm, or both. She would then express disappointment that I didn’t wait for her orgasm. Being the accommodating and loving fiancé that I am, we agreed to the prospect that if she doesn’t orgasm, I don’t orgasm. Fortunately my fiancée started feeling better and we knew that we’d quickly be in the throes of passion again. Our energy was restored and we resumed being the sexual animals that we are. Still, we’d have sex for hours and while everything felt wonderful, she just couldn’t get her release. After about three weeks of having passionate and often kinky sex nearly every day without orgasm, we started feeling frustrated. I started to lose my confidence that I am a knowledgeable, talented and giving lover. Both of us received promotions at work and we started working more hours, only to be extremely tired and frustrated in the evening. It seemed all we had energy for was an hour of Netflix before bed. Bed became about sleeping instead of having sex. We starting making love less than three times a week… When asked if the following statement is true: “Clearly the most important part about having sex is the orgasm.” I’ve stated that answer to be false. “It’s the connection.” I would reply. I’ve always felt that if orgasm is the most important, we would only need our Magic Wands and our masturbation devices to get our brain chemicals into a healthy balance and people would matter much less. Five weeks without orgasm passed. One glorious Sunday morning after 12 hours of restful sleep and flirtation, my fiancée looked at me with a certain hunger in her eyes, got on top of me, and started bringing it home. She loudly moaned and told me how good I feel, as she was wet and warm and tight, and her breasts were in my face and she was holding me down by the wrists. This was especially exciting to me as I’m typically the aggressor in this sexual relationship. She started moaning louder and louder and told me that she was close and I just couldn’t help myself. My orgasm came much faster than I’ve ever known it to come, and she kept riding on my cock long after my orgasm and never made it herself. Even though I had cum, I rolled her forcefully onto her back and ate her pussy with my mouth while switching on the Magic Wand and placing it directly upon her wet clit just as she likes it. She took it away after about 30 minutes. She was sensitive and said it felt wonderful but she couldn’t reach orgasm. Emotionally, she asked me what is wrong with her. We read up on the issue of being Anorgasmia. According to The Mayo Clinic Anorgasmia “is the medical term for regular difficulty reaching orgasm after ample sexual stimulation, causing personal distress. Anorgasmia is a common occurrence, affecting a significant number of women.” As we read up on the issue we found many references stating it’s “all in her head”, “she needs sex therapy”, “she needs to learn how to relax”, “she needs lifestyle changes”, “She needs to be put on anti-anxiety medication”, “her partner needs education to learn to have sex through methods other than penetration alone”. This was clearly frustrating to both of us as she’s a fitness professional with a tight core and we’re both highly educated and experienced in the world of human sexuality. We’d come home from work, prepare a healthy meal together in the kitchen, free of distractions like television or , eat our meal together, clean up together, engage in foreplay and then we’d make love anywhere our hearts desired. After three months the issue persisted. We changed our schedules so that we both obtained proper exercise, worked the same hours, always shared meals together, went out on dates, bought new lingerie, expensive sex toys and vibrators, and even got into orgasmic meditation. We started watching a few hours of porn a night as a supplement to our foreplay. She went back to the doctor and went through extensive blood work, finding no issues with her thyroid, with disease, or with her hormone balance. Anorgasmia continued for six months. Could you imagine not having an orgasm for six months? Could you imagine agreeing to abstain from orgasm until you helped your partner figure out what is preventing her orgasm? Can you imagine what that might do to the bond with your partner? After another evening of glorious feeling sex without orgasm, my partner broke down in front of me and asked me to come up with ideas about what could be wrong with her body so that she could not experience orgasm. As a person who works in physical fitness, she consumes a huge tub of supplements every morning and every night including niacin and folic acid. She regulates her hormones with birth control and she uses a physician prescribed medication that enhances energy and endorphin levels. To make it simple – this makes her libido sky-high and she has the energy to fuck all day, every day. Lastly because of her allergies she takes antihistamines so that she could breath and get enough sleep at night. I noticed that she was taking nearly four different kinds of nasal and oral antihistamines each day. “This one opens my nose so that this one can open my sinuses and clear them out, this one keeps me from having excessive drainage and keeps away the watery eyes and excessive sneezing, and this one keeps my nasal passages open while I sleep…” Do you know what causes the trigger to orgasm? It’s the same thing that makes you sneeze. Histamine! According to psychology.wikia.com, histamine is released as part of the human orgasm from mast cells in the genitals. If this response is lacking this may be a sign of (histamine deficiency). In such cases, a doctor may prescribe diet supplements with folic acid and niacin (which used in conjunction can increase blood histamine levels and histamine release), or L-histidine. I urged her to get off antihistamines because we’re already taking supplements containing folic acid and niacin. She went to a new doctor that tested all her food allergies and her biological allergies. Once she stopped eating the foods that cause inflammation and allergic reactions she became free to get off the antihistamines. It took nearly 10 days for her histamine levels to return to normal. To celebrate we dressed up. I took her out to see a sexually themed movie. I took her to dinner. I bought her lingerie and a dress. I took her to the adult store and replaced her Magic Wand. I replaced the lube with extra virgin coconut oil. I carried her to the bedroom and tied her up and exposed her to her new toy. She had three orgasms in the first ten minutes! In fact, the first only took 30 seconds! We fucked all evening and into the early morning hours. I had multiple orgasms myself! Now we’re back at it again nearly every day. Life feels better. Our connection is stronger. Our love is unrelenting. We’re getting married! Now we feel free to move ahead with all those naughty fantasies we’ve had together. It’s been a long time coming. I can’t wait to blog about it all!!! |
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