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sexy with strangers or fucking with friends?  

rm_asiana4ds 65M/43F
20 posts
8/18/2010 11:25 am
sexy with strangers or fucking with friends?
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lickugudallnite 53M

8/24/2010 1:14 pm

 Hi Want to meet for drinks sometime?


lovenlife888 67M

8/25/2010 12:07 am

 Interesting question..in my case and for a number I know ( in fact was having this same discussion just last night with a friend ) here on Find a Cougar it is the dinner and chat first as part of the need to feel comfortable before moving to pleasure. I have had my worst experiences when I have rushed into a liasson through being instantly physically attracted or accepting ladies coming to my room directly without a meet...and who turn out to be the opposite of what they said. We could write a PhD treatise on this subject but in the end its all about experience and what makes you comfortalbe and for me the days of he hullo and lets fuck immediately are a relic of the past.


oldman1973 75M/38F
617 posts
9/8/2010 2:33 am

 We are with you, just get a couple of drinks and the sex and fun begin.

We believe in getting on with the fun and if we like each other then repeat meets are on the cards

We have also fucked with strangers on Find a Cougar quite a lot, with many we hook up with regular. Fucking with friends we have done but they were friends for about 2 years until one night we ended up sripped and getting on with it, having found out both us couples were already swinging

Mo & Tuk


bulehyatt 65M  
1717 posts
7/28/2011 10:14 pm

 So...sex with strangers versus fucking with friends? What really works best in Find a Cougar?

I think the first question is whether you look for one-off encounters, or repeat, regular, casual-sex relationships. Then the second question is whether you are looking for a one-on-one encounter, or an encounter that involves 3 or more people.

For one-on-one relationships, I pretty much insist on fucking friends . . . women who I can talk comfortably and laugh easily together with. Fucking random strangers based mainly on the screen of "am I attracted to her physically" is a roll of the dice with too much down-side when expectations turn out to be different. So I have learned to take my time getting to know a potential 1-on-1 partner via email, chat or conversation over drinks before having sex. If we end up sharing "too much information" such that one of us loses interest in fucking the other, then I see that as a good thing. For instance, if I learn that she is racist . . . or selfish and mean-spirited in her interactions with other people . . . then I won't want to be her friend. Better that I not fuck her at all, if I don't think she is someone I will like to have as my long-term casual friend.

With couples (whether me as a single male for MFM 3-some; or together with a female friend, for full-swap 4-some), then I am much more open to "meet and fuck immediately". Always better if we find that we like each other as people well enough to establish a regular, repeat relationship. But reality is that the dynamic between the other couple is probably the driving factor. They may simply be looking for a one-time cameo-appearance . . . for many reasons. And it's always more complicated to become friends with 2 people . . . or for 4 people to each enjoy all 3 of the other people.

So quick summary - for 1-on-1 encounters, I insist on fucking friends. For 3-somes or 4-somes, I prefer getting to know the other couple before playing, but I am pretty open to a "fuck first . . . and then explore friendship in the course of the naked encounter".

Great topic, Asiana's. Sorry I didn't see it when you posted it last year. Welcome to Singapore . . .


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