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Ugh bullies
Ugh bullies Lately I've been dealing with this bully at my job. And today I've finally got vindicated. There was a girl at my job that I brought into my circle because I wanted to be nice. I befriended her, encouraged her and genuinely tried to boost her self esteem. Before Christmas break everyone in our work group found out that a guy she had been obsessive about liked me. I took 2 weeks off to be with my during the holidays. I come back to so much drama. At my job, alot of people think I'm gay. Which is not a problem, cause I cultivate that perception. I definitely don't date at my job. So first day back, everyone is coming up to me with these rumors she spreading. I speak to her about it, like please keep my name out your mouth. She said ok and I thought it was the end of it. But no. Next I'm getting screenshots of several posts she made about me. I argue with her on the post. Pleading take them down. She said alot of awful things about me and my . She filed false police reports about saying I beat her up. Said she was going to destory my life. And she tried it. This Monday, I went to the very top. Showed documented proof of her slut shaming me, gay bashing me, filing false police reports. Monday she got fired. Today, went to the police station with written statements from every person who was outside. To prove my innocence. Just got the call that she was arrested for filing false reports. She wanted to destory my life, but destoryed hers. Posting this here cause I need to vent. I need to get this off my chest. I feel sorry for her. I feel guilty that it came to this. She had hatred for me when I only offered friendship. But I still feel guilty |
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Never feel guilty, you did everything you could before she forced you to take legal measures. She had an opportunity to leave you in peace and go on with her life. Unfortunately, for her, she continued. You reap what you sow, and she sowed her ass right out of a job. I call that karma. She's in the past now, keep going forward and live your best life
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1/14/2020 1:51 pm |
nice read and thanks for the points
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Standing up to bullies is the only way to deal with them! Well done!
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1/14/2020 2:15 pm |
Glad that you were stronger than her and took her head on. She was never going to just go away...you asked her politely to take things down and she just threatened you to make your life miserable. You are a good person and it's not in your nature to try and hurt someone...that is why you feel upset. You did what had to be done. Ugh bullies
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GREAT to see that kind of ending! One thing I cant stand is a GD bully.
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1/14/2020 3:47 pm |
and that is what abusers rely on! you feeling guilty for defending yourself! i say get over your guilt. you did the right thing. there is a world of difference between insanity and stupidity
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1/14/2020 4:32 pm |
Glad you were brave enough to share and to take back control of your world. This is actually somewhat inspiring. Don’t loss who you are! Ugh bullies
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Never feel guilty, you did everything you could before she forced you to take legal measures. She had an opportunity to leave you in peace and go on with her life. Unfortunately, for her, she continued. You reap what you sow, and she sowed her ass right out of a job. I call that karma. She's in the past now, keep going forward and live your best life
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Standing up to bullies is the only way to deal with them! Well done!
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Glad that you were stronger than her and took her head on. She was never going to just go away...you asked her politely to take things down and she just threatened you to make your life miserable. You are a good person and it's not in your nature to try and hurt someone...that is why you feel upset. You did what had to be done. Ugh bullies
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GREAT to see that kind of ending! One thing I cant stand is a GD bully.
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don't feel guilty about your own self-preservation. she was looking to 'kill' you. and you kept your wits about you. you think david was worried that he slayed goliath? the village knew not to fuck with david after that. and just like him, you showed everyone that you know how to slay. sometimes you gotta show people that you're not one to be fucked with, unless you say so.
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"Screw guilt." You're absolutely right. But suing her will end up costing me more. I won't get anything. Her consequences were the loss of her job and jail time. I hope and pray that it taught her something and she won't ever do this to another person.
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Glad you were brave enough to share and to take back control of your world. This is actually somewhat inspiring. Don’t loss who you are! Ugh bullies
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don't feel guilty about your own self-preservation. she was looking to 'kill' you. and you kept your wits about you. you think david was worried that he slayed goliath? the village knew not to fuck with david after that. and just like him, you showed everyone that you know how to slay. sometimes you gotta show people that you're not one to be fucked with, unless you say so.
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Thank you everyone for letting me vent about this. Thank you for the encouraging words and the show of support. Tomorrow is a new day, I'll try to let go of misplaced guilt and move forward.
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Hmm, sounds like a case of she had the hots for this guy, approached him about it, and since he likes you instead, he turned her down. Maybe right around the break time. Sounds like she has an uncontrollable jealous nature, mixed in with some unaddressed insecurities. Which can equate an emotional unstable, if not volatile nature in anyone. If that's the case it would be a good thing for her to seek counselling. Though that's just my take on that there. You did the right thing with reporting the incident to all authorities. I feel for you; I don't like conflicts myself, and do my best to avoid them, or at least try to reach a middle ground where everyone's happy. But when it comes to my life or the lives of whom I'm close to and/or protect are involved? Oh no, hunny-- NOT going to happen! Flip that switch, and you'll see Insta-Bitch real fast. ::le sigh:: On that note... Hang in there. Sometimes it sucks being an Empath... "Be who you are and say what you feel. Those who matter won't mind, and those who mind won't matter." ~ Dr. Seuss.
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Keep strong. Don’t ever let a bully know they won. They need an ego stroke.
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Hmm, sounds like a case of she had the hots for this guy, approached him about it, and since he likes you instead, he turned her down. Maybe right around the break time. Sounds like she has an uncontrollable jealous nature, mixed in with some unaddressed insecurities. Which can equate an emotional unstable, if not volatile nature in anyone. If that's the case it would be a good thing for her to seek counselling. Though that's just my take on that there. You did the right thing with reporting the incident to all authorities. I feel for you; I don't like conflicts myself, and do my best to avoid them, or at least try to reach a middle ground where everyone's happy. But when it comes to my life or the lives of whom I'm close to and/or protect are involved? Oh no, hunny-- NOT going to happen! Flip that switch, and you'll see Insta-Bitch real fast. ::le sigh:: On that note... Hang in there. Sometimes it sucks being an Empath...
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Keep strong. Don’t ever let a bully know they won. They need an ego stroke.
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Going forward you might also want to see about a restraining order to keep her away from you.
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How awful for you! I'm really sorry that happened to you. I think you did the right thing without question and you sure as hell have nothing to feel guilty about. Just today I re-read a story by a favorite writer of mine. The quote I remember most vividly is "When planning revenge, first dig two graves." I'll hasten to say it doesn't apply to you- you simply defended yourself. But it certainly applies to your co-worker! Her pettiness and jealousy came back to bite her. Keep your head held high. I'm proud of you for standing up for yourself! Become a member now and get a free tote bag.
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Keep it moving always forward.
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I've noticed a little of it on here. But for me Find a Cougar has been a safe place to be myself, a sexual deviant. Sorry that it's not a safe place for you. No one deserve to be bullied.
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Going forward you might also want to see about a restraining order to keep her away from you.
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