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Meeting someone online isn't uncommon these days, but neither is the large number of people getting played online. Playing with people's hearts is a game to some people online, so it's important to keep your eyes open for warning signs. Here are 4 signs that you're getting played online. He sweet-talks constantly You might be being played if the man you're talking to has nothing but sweet things to say all the time. It's nice to be sweet-talked and romanced, but that can't be your entire communication with him. If you're looking for a real relationship, it can't all be fantasy. It's important to have real conversations. If he tells you that he loves you early on and that you're the one for him, but he doesn't really know you, you're probably being played. He talks, but doesn't act People can make themselves into anyone they want to be online. A man can say that he's a businessman who volunteers on the weekends, but does he actually do them? Some people talk a big game to make a good impression, but don't actually do what they claim. Someone who lies for whatever reason, is playing you. Don't be afraid to call out inconsistencies that you find between what he says and what he does. He disappears a lot If the man you're talking to disappears a lot, or during certain hours consistently, you might be being played. If a man cannot talk to you outside of work hours, this suggests that he has a girlfriend or wife and family in real life. A man who is free from outside romantic relationships will not have such strict rules about when he can and cannot talk. He doesn't have an interest in meeting in person Meeting people online is great, but eventually it has to move to real life. If your suggestions to meet up for coffee are constantly turned down, you might be dealing with an online player who is just having a good time online and intends nothing more to happen. It's great to meet people online, but you also have to be careful about not getting played. It's hard to really tell if someone is being honest or not, but if you feel uncomfortable that something isn't right, trust yourself, it probably isn't. goodbuddy781
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Here are five things that a quality man won't do. He won't fight dirty A quality man won't use arguments as an excuse to call you names or become physical. All couples have disagreements from time to time and you want to know that the man you're dating won't resort to bad behavior. A quality man will not intimidate, name-call, push, shove, hit, or manipulate during a fight with you no matter how bad it may get. He won't use any weak points, such as insecurities, against you during arguments. A quality man will remain as calm as he can, even walking away if things get too heated. He won't take you for granted A quality man will know when he has a good woman. He won't take you for granted by showing up late for dates without calling, break dates with you to hang out with his buddies, or ignore texts and phone calls for hours. He will be busy at times, but he won't make a habit of making you feel like you come after everything and everyone else. He wants you to know he thinks you're special. He won't allow himself to be treated poorly A quality man is confident and won't let other people treat him badly. He won't put up with anyone, including a girlfriend, call him names, threaten him, or manipulate him. He knows he is not perfect, but has good things to offer others and doesn't deserve to be treated unfairly. He won't retaliate by doing the same behavior that is done to him. A quality man will walk away. He doesn't invade your privacy A quality man won't go through your phone, journal, or emails to find out what you're doing. A good man will ask you what he wants to know rather than snooping and trying to catch you in lies. He respects your privacy and knows that invading it signals a lack of trust. A quality man doesn't think he's entitled to access every nook and cranny of your life without your permission. He won't keep you from friends or family A quality man won't isolate you from the other people in your life. If a man is insecure, he will hesitate to share you with others fearing you may have more fun without him or leave him. A quality man will not only encourage time with the other people in your life, he will take the time to get to know them as well. When a man tries to keep you attached to him and isolated from others, this is an attempt to control you and make himself the center of your life. Dating a quality man might seem like quite a change if you're used to dating irresponsible, immature, and mean men. A quality man is a good choice when you're looking for a stable relationship with a future. goodbuddy781
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Does the fact you're about to date a single parent change anything in the dating process? It can, to some degree, particularly if the person hasn't been actively dating. Taking care of kids doesn't leave much time for socializing. In fact, if the children are pre-school age, there's not much time left for anything. Whether you're asking out a single mom, or being invited by a single dad to join him for dinner, there will be a mix of excitement and apprehension on their part. Understanding this will get you off to a good start – while the following advice will ensure a great finish. Your ability to make your date relax and enjoy themselves will determine the success of the date. Acknowledge that your date's life probably revolves around kids and start there. - Ask about the children. Proud parents are always willing to talk about them, so it's a good way to get conversations started. - Pictures will obviously come next. Your date is probably carrying quite a few, especially if she's the single mom. - If you're really daring, ask about past relationships. You don't' want to be your date's therapist, but sometimes it's a topic they're comfortable talking about and you can learn a lot knowing where they've been. - Suggest that they call home to see how the kids are and if the babysitter is doing okay. If your date is feeling comfortable with you it probably won't be necessary, but the gesture will be appreciated. - Make it known right up front that your date's children can call you anytime while you're on the date. Be proactive and have the telephone numbers for where you'll be. This shows your sincerity. - If your date hasn't had the opportunity to socialize lately, keep the date more subdued. Dinner is good, but make it casual dining. No movie theatres or places where you can't talk. - Understand that sometimes a single parent of young children may slip into baby talk. This might be cute coming from a female, but not if your dates a single dad. - Don't invite yourself back into their home after the date. Your date may not be ready for that and feel uncomfortable with kids running around and the possible state of the home. - Make a list of things to talk about since your date's current interests may only revolve around family. Ask about hobbies, family origins, pets, or world affairs. Any topic is fine as long as it keeps the conversation going and moves it away from children. - You can always suggest an activity or outing where your date's children can join you if babysitters are a problem. This isn't suggested for a first date, but after that, why not? If you're going to see the person again, then kids will be part of it. - Let the dress be casual. Having the responsibility of supporting children, your date may not have money for expensive clothes. Not that this matters, but it could be embarrassing for your date if you're intending to go someplace requiring a fancier wardrobe. - Don't push meeting the kids. Let your date dictate the time and place for that, although you can certainly suggest they participate in a future date. When that happens make it theme parks, the beach, or wherever children will be comfortable and have a good time. First time outings with children at a restaurant rarely turn out as expected. That's all there is to it. Dating a single parent can sometimes have its challenges, but if you're seriously interested in the person, working your dates around kids, colds and babysitters is worth it. goodbuddy781
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Age differences have become more common in relationships, and someone being significantly older or younger than their partner is no longer the taboo it once was. However this doesn't mean that having a large age gap in a relationship is not without its difficulties. One of the biggest issues faced by couples who have a large age gap in their relationship is that they will often have different plans for the future of the relationship. In many cases the older partner in the relationship will be looking to settle down and start a family, while the younger partner is not always ready for such a commitment. In some cases the older partner already has family commitments from a previous relationship, which can cause friction with their current partner. On a similar note, the possibility of starting a family may lead to tension where the younger person would like to have children but their older partner has a family from a previous relationship, and doesn't want to have any more children. Partners in relationships with large age gaps often find it difficult to relate to their partner's friends, sometimes finding their older partner's friends boring or their younger partner's friends immature. Even if this is not the case, their partner's friends often leave them out of the group, either consciously or subconsciously. Similarly, partners may have different ideas of fun places for dates. As with any relationship, insecurity is one of the main issues which can destroy a happy couple. When in relationships with an age gap, partners often find themselves worrying that their other half will run off with someone their own age. Honesty and communication are important factors in any relationship, but even more so when there is a large age gap between partners. If the relationship is meant to be then the partner will understand any issues, and be willing to work towards resolving them. Many people in these relationships, particularly the older partner, make the mistake of bottling up their feelings, assuming that their partner will not understand due to the age difference, or is too immature to want to change. Communication is of particular importance with regards to future plans for marriage and family. Some relationships with age gaps simply won't work, as with any relationships, however by talking things through and making the effort to respect your partner's needs you can increase the chances of making the relationship work in the longer term goodbuddy781
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Sometimes it is difficult to recognize when you're in an abusive relationship because maybe you've grown up in a household that contains the same kind of behavior. Or maybe you think abuse is getting beaten on a daily basis and that is not happening to you. It's important to know that abuse is not only physical and can happen through very small actions. Belittling or over the top teasing Teasing can be cute, but when it becomes a constant occurrence or your feelings are getting hurt, then it's gone too far. Sometimes people think that saying they are only kidding makes everything okay, but it really doesn't. If negative teasing or belittling or nasty comments are getting you down, you need to say something. It is hard, but if you can't demand more respect for yourself, it won't be given to you. Blame for things out of your control It's sweet and cute to be considered good luck when good things happen, but being called bad luck or a jinx when bad things happen is just wrong when you have no control over the situation in question such as a sports game or such. If you are being seriously blamed for someone else's loss, to the point where your partner is angry with you about the outcome, it's important to stand up for yourself and make sure that you do not feel guilty for something out of your control. Unloving touches No one, not a boyfriend or girlfriend, should ever touch you in a way that makes you feel uncomfortable. You know that hitting and slapping are wrong, but it's just as wrong to shove or grope someone. The assumption that you are "up for grabs" because you're dating is false. Your body is still yours. If your partner is trying to show affection, then do what you can to explain what touches are okay with you and which are completely off limits without asking first. Needing to know your every move Sometimes it's out of protectiveness that your boyfriend or girlfriend wants to know where you're going and when they expect to be back. When your partner needs to know everywhere you are going and goes to the extent of interrogating you about where you are going and who you are going with constantly, that's where the problem lies. And when you are expected to ask permission, that is taking control to an even higher level. Disregarding feelings Being in a relationship means that you listen and care about each other's feelings. When one person's feelings matter more than another's this causes issues in any relationship. One person is never more important than another person in a relationship. If you have talked to your partner about any of the above issues or something else that's important to you and s/he continues the actions that they now know upset you, it is important to realize that they are disregarding your feelings and that is not a sign of love. goodbuddy781
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If you haven't been single for a of years, can come as a shock. Even routine chores can suddenly feel different and frightening now that you haven't got someone by your side. Finding another mate simply feel comfortable again is not a positive move. You need discover your confidence as a single person before forming a new relationship. If you rush too soon and find yourself with another failed relationship on your hands, it will damage your emotional well-being. goodbuddy781
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10/22/2021 4:11 am |
I sometimes like to give advice, but for some reason they don't listen.
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I enjoy making people smile or laugh. The irony is that I'm not a people person. Go figure lol My name is MrWrong and I approved this comment
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10/21/2021 9:56 pm |
Be yourself, you’ll be fine
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10/21/2021 9:04 pm |
Anyone here?
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Oh yes it is lovely to converse with others,many people today live on their own and do not get to have company like they use to,always makes me happy to make others smile
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