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hurdle that female comedians seem to face is public perception. If asked, most men would say that they would not want their wives, or girlfriends, to be funnier than them. This is not to suggest that all men hold this opinion, but it is a universal truth that the male ego is still alive and well. It could be said that a lot of female comics compromise their femininity somewhat, to compensate for this fact. After all, if a man sees a woman as a feminine being, he isn't necessarily listening to what she's saying. So, it's little wonder that many female stand-up comedians attempt to de-sexualise themselves, in order to be heard. On the other side of public perception, female comedians have to tackle the members of their own sex. There are some women who may feel intimidated by a confident, witty, woman. One way for a female comedian to get these women on their side is to tell jokes about men. The only problem is that by doing that a female comic immediately ostracizes the male members of an audience. There is clearly a catch twenty two situation here, which just is not present for a male comedian. This isn't simply another chapter in the battle of the sexes. The issues surrounding the perception of female comedians say a lot about our society. They suggest what is perhaps obvious, that we are still far from an age of sexual equality. All comedians have their fans and their detractors, this is no surprise. What is shocking, however, is that often the detractors of female comedians do not merely express their dislike of the material. Read, or listen to, any debate about female comedians and you will notice that the comments get extremely personal and offensive. Often women are derided for their looks, or their sexuality. There is an aggression present which is incomprehensible and seems to have nothing to do with a female comic's talent. With all this up against them, it is not difficult to see why so few women choose to take up the profession. goodbuddy781
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Other comments 18 The relationship starts usually like this: Wow I really like him,,,,, could he/she be the one???? Women typically start planning the next year, 5 years and before you know it you are walking down the aisle. Your thoughts turned into action. Then - BANG!! you find out something about the person you really can't live with. Could be the voice, the sex, the lack of attention, or a number of things. So the withdrawal from the relationship begins.... in other words you start tearing it down in your head and heart. Your thoughts become your actions. Check out a good book- the 5 languages of love. Great reading.... It talks about the 2 year - wow of the relationship. Step one- Keep it real in the beginning. Be honest about what you really need and want. Don't give up your dreams. Hear what the other person is telling you what they need and want. Listen to yourself..... be aware of your self talk- "I could help him/her change that". Relationships should not require- hard work just attention and lots of communication. Don't believe the old saying opposites attract- they eventually repel.... Above all else communication- clear cut down to eath really does work. Take the time to do this every day. Listening and giving the proper acknowledgement is key to success. goodbuddy781
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Other comments 17 of all the crap on the interwebs, this page resonated. "You no longer feel as though you genuinely like your partner" Pretty much sums up the death of our relationship. "Your sex life is limited or non-existent" Bingo again. No sex is a death knell for relationships. Sex should be present even in the most tumultuous of situations. No sex = no connection. background Married 30+ years, I cheated and was caught frequently (not proud but I need to be honest). Spouse never processed it before, we just powered on through. This time it took 10 weeks to process. Spouse is now asking "why are we still married?" and I cannot think of a good reason why other than I don't want change or lose my assets or to be labeled "single." Everyone in our family is divorced, weren't we were better than they were? Thanks for this excellent summation of good love gone bad. Parting shot - the leading cause of divorce is marriage. Just say "no" goodbuddy781
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Other comments 16 There are some great books out there that are real eye openers for both extremes...selfish and generous. I was born with a double dose of "the doormat syndrome" frustrated growing up in the south as a girl in a dysfunctional atmosphere doh One book that helped me understand the process and psychology of things is The Dance of Anger. While I was reading it, I could see a lot of myself and others around me in it. What really helped is it gave me the knowledge and the tools to change. It takes a long time to re-learn behaviors and correct sub-conscious thoughts and feelings. It can be very frustrating. Boundaries are important and it is our own responsibility to teach others no matter who they are how to treat us, but first we must learn how to treat ourselves well. Like the song "R-E-S-P-E-C-T find out what it means to me." goodbuddy781
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Other comments from woman It's so nice to feel that special person makes time to even send a tiny message every day, just letting you know he thinks of you or he is looking forward to the day when you can spend time together... Each little detail really adds up. I do find it enticing if my guy asks about the future it does indeed bode well if you really like him and want a long relationship. Okay , how can i find this guy?  goodbuddy781
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He compliments what you do, not just how you look. Most men enjoy telling a woman how great they look. However, if they are really into a woman, they will also compliment her about all the little things she does that they love. Not only will they say that you're beautiful, they'll also praise you for things like your kindness, your humor, or your intelligence. He tries to figure out what makes you tick. If men are only interested in a superficial relationship, the conversations they carry tend to reflect that. They don't really try to get to know you; they may not even ask you questions at all, opting to talk about themselves nonstop instead. However, if they're in the company of a woman they are starting to develop serious feelings for, they want to learn about what makes her tick. So, if a guy is getting serious about you, they may ask questions about your past, your dreams for the future, and what things in the present bring you the most joy. He invests time in you and he's reliable about it. If a man is serious about a woman, he prioritizes his time so that she has a part of it. If he says he'll call, he does. If he makes plans with you, he doesn't flake. Even on especially hectic weeks, he'll make a serious effort to at least touch base with the special lady in his life. When crazy schedules are driving you two apart, he'll be proactive in making sure that you spend some quality time together. He talks about the future. Any conversation about the future can be a source of nervous conversation for many men. However, if a guy is serious about you, he starts to see you in his life down the road. He'll ask questions about what you'd like to accomplish in the next several years in an effort to see whether you are on the same page as him about the future. Meeting a new romantic partner can be both emotionally draining and exhilarating. If you cross paths with a man who shows the signs above, there's a good chance you've landed a keeper. Enjoy getting to know each other. With a bit of luck and compatibility, you could be laying the foundation for a beautiful relationship. goodbuddy781
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Other comments 14 I think you are right; but women caused this phenomenon. How many men are with women that know they are cheating. Tiger woods so far has 13 mistresses, all saying they were long term. I'm sorry, but a blind man in a sand storm could see those signs. He was actually getting hundreds of sexy texts and emails and you dont think she knew? My ex could smell if I had hugged a woman who had perfume on her. I think women create this; many men know they can cheat but the women are so into them that they will take them back. I know one woman right now who is with a guy that is sleeping with 3 other women but she says that she knows he loves her though, and not them. huh? Women constantly choose bad guys, thinking they can change them and in the end they rip on them. If women didn't accept men cheating, this wouldn't happen. Many men will not accept a cheating women and they will leave. The "new" women's movement is ridiculous. Lets be as slimy as men. Well cheating is cheating is cheating. If women didn't accept this behavior, neither would society. goodbuddy781
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Other comments 13 Cheating by either gender is wrong but women and men cheat generally for different reasons. Men usually cheat when trapped in a loveless marriage/relationship. Women cheat to find greener grass on the other side or excitement. Feminism and the State have made the "decent man", obsolete. Mr. Average who works for his money, makes average pay, gets dirty, tries to do the right thing, has manners and treats women with respect isn't good enough, needed, nor desired. He is boring, and since almost all women in the west see themselves as an all desirable siren, average just won't do! Heaven forbid if you're male and under five foot ten, you might as well join a monastery. Women don't need decent average men. They make their own money and when they don't, the state is their to care for them. No, far more attractive is the arrogant bullshitter, alpha males who get off throwing their weight around, hurting people, being the rude bully and all too often sleeping around and cheating on the current dufus who is their current bed partner. If a woman marries a decent guy, more than half the time she will cheat on him with one of these bastards who will mistreat her. Just check out the date sites for "married" women who want to have discreet affairs with guys like this. Equality??? Yeah, I repeat, it's wrong for anyone to cheat on someone they purport to love or care for. Yet, feminism has brought western culture to the ground wherein women cheating has become the norm. You want to fool with these alpha males? You get what you asked for. And don't say, "all men are alike." Most of the women who make this statement don't know what a decent man is, because they are too good to bother with a decent man. goodbuddy781
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Other comments 12 Cheating, yet another reason why i think marriage is a crock of hogwash. If you dont marry in the first place you will have less problems and you'll be able to leave whenever you want to. OF COURSE PEOPLE CHEAT. It's just part of being a demon(crat) Demons encourage it. Any commitment you make, should be broken according to the Demons. And that is just one fraction of what Demons are doing to ruin your society, your country, and all other countries. Weaken them and they will not be able to stand up to a world order. Many people will look down on you if you do not marry. But they aren't worth p'n on. WELL THEY'RE NOT! And people who do that dont give a g*d d*mn f''king flick about you. One of the best ways to make your money and posessions AND LIFE needlessly vulnerable is to marry. If you're married i suggest you get a divorce. Before all those little things she or he did that confused and annoyed you, are made to make sense. When you are beaten, strangled, pushed off the pier. WHATEVER. There are so many ways to rid yourself of the spouse who's standing between you, and his assets, im not even going to get into it right now. If the person cannot love you or "mate" with you cause you didnt marry them, THEN LEAVE THEM before it's too late! goodbuddy781
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Other comments 11 Many unique points made but, people need to be mindful of age gaps that they are not seeking a mother or father image. Often times our only frame of reference in finding relationships or creating relationships is we have our parents to use as a gauge in finding our mates. Yes many may complain about maturity level and yes a 20 year old guy would be somewhat ideal for a 40 yr old woman because he has the stamina to please her when she is at her peak. Most women are at their peak at 40 and they often want sex more before menopause sets in. Yet, if a woman at 40 to 50 is wanking with a guy at 20 would she be comfortable to think if she had a son at 20 and her boyfriend is 20? The same applies to guys at 40 looking for a 20 yr old girl. Yet, if we are to say age is not a problem but, maturity and financial stability is, think about it how many 20 year olds are cruising around in $50,000 sportscars and live in penthouse suites? Most are in school and work at burger joint barely maintaining a clunker car and living at home with their folks. Today it takes so long for people to make a name for themselves and life is more complicated with so many more choices. Kids today spend more time playing video games and not working on their maturity responsibilities. Yet they want to be respected in the adult world. They need to put away their games and get a job designing those games. Yet, because of the way life seems to be today both young and old the only ones getting laid these days are those in the porn industry. Marriage today has no meaning today. They often fail in 10 years maybe 20 after the kids grow up to make the same mistakes their folks make. People today trade their partners like cars. Even this site is like a used car lot. Instead of used cars its used and abused people young and old alike. We all have a story and we can be attracted to youth because we often got cheated out of our youth being forced into the role as adult children at age 9. We also want to rekindle our youthful years to play like we did when we were 15. Old folks at 50 and 60 are just scared of living and dying alone. So, anyone willing to put up with us old codgers is a treat. We are often set in our ways then and trying to train some young stud or girl to suit our needs is noble because they are young and impressionable. The fine line between training or corrupting needs to be observed first. There are many old folks who never grew up and never amounted to anything. When a 25 yr old just steps out of college has more on the ball than a 50 or 60 yr old who has lived a full life of misery, one has to wonder why a 25 yr old would want to shag a 50 yr old who has nothing on their plate? Where is the attraction? There is no future for both parties. On that note its best to find people in same age group and similar circumstances both parties can live with. When I was 30 I dated women at 50 now the role has shifted. At 60 I may see alot of 30 yr olds and 60 yr old women here. The 60 something women are equally bitter and unrealistic in their needs and wants in a man. They may want a guy there age but, he may not be useful in the sack. So they are looking for money. The 30 year olds are still looking for a partner to bed with because they still have that drive. The menopause hasn't set in so, they have 10 to 15 yr gap of playing the field in settling down with a family. On that note many will judge and criticize differently but, its just an opinion and observation goodbuddy781
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Other comments 10 My wife of blessed memory was 18 years older than me. We had a good marriage, and age-difference was never a problem for us, but it certainly was for a lot of other people. People accused her of being a gold-digger, etc. The treated me like a 60's hippie, just because I have long-hair. The fact that I listen to classical music and don't do drugs of any kind, was always lost on them. Their prejudice always made their choices for them. I don't recommend running out and trying to find someone much older, or much younger. But there are some very valid and legitimate reasons for it. I divorced my first wife after one month of marriage when I caught her writing a letter to her boy-friend. (She claimed I was much older and mature than she was....a whole nine months!) It was ten years before I even considered dating again. When I did, I'd seen enough in that ten years to know I wanted a mature woman, and there just weren't any to be found that were still single. So, I made a conscious decision to find somebody older, as long as they appeared to have a little bit of maturity. It worked, and it worked quite well. As I said, the only age-issues we ever had, were other people treating us wrong. Sad that prejudice still runs so many stupid people's lives. But be clear on one point. For good or for ill, it is more likely that the older person will die before the younger. When my 26-year marriage ended and I became a widower, it was the toughest thing I've ever gone through. The marriage was worth it, and I would never change a thing. But it took me 2 1/2 years to get over it, and Covid kicked me when I was already down, and I have since lost four very good friends (none from the virus, but instead, from the quarantine or "treatments". One died less than a week after my wife did, and was completely unrelated to covid or quarantine.) So, you can safely ignore most of the discussion about age, except the discrimination, as some of the above comments show. But you still need to make sure you get married for the right reason! (Yes, marriage is even more important today, that it was in the past.) goodbuddy781
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Other comments 9 Yeah yeah love love LoVe. Thing is, first of all, some people dont, or dont want to, fall in love. Also what the f IS love anyway? Some of you humans, for instance, believe that love is you dont cheat on each other. Other people think love is the opposite. Letting your mate run wild and free and are happy when they're satisfied. And there's even in -between people. They both want to make it with others, but the want the relationship to be deep. Yeah deep, man deep. Another thing is this marriage thing. you think THAT'S LOVE? Signing a DOCUMENT for love (or whatever) so later when it all falls apart your "love" can use the law against you? Yeah. Age difference. What about people who ARE looking for a mother or father figure? Maybe it happens more often than you think. Maybe sadder, is some people struggle with that all their lives, never realizing that for whatever reason, or whatever their parents did to them, they are actually meant for that sort of a relationship. Usually but not always, the older one is seen as one with great wisdom, and experience. The Younger can learn from him. And the younger brings freshness and youth into the Older's life. Maybe even gives him something to live FOR. They both have to understand their humor and knowledge was geared to whatever generation they were born into. Like a Brit and an American talking. They understand each others language (almost) perfectly, but some things will be taken the wrong way. And they simply have to be aware of that. And how many times have people of whatever is the Perfect Age for each other failed miserably in THEIR relationships? I say if you like something, go for it. Be AWARE of possible pitfalls. And when and IF it goes stale, then you simply must get out. And God help you if you married the bastid! C'ya! goodbuddy781
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Mr. GOOOdbuddy, What I am finding is that women my age or a little older are looking for men in their 4o's and 50's. In fact very few women are looking for men over 60. I don't think that there is any age in which a woman is considered too old, it all depends on her outlook. I know women that were in their 50's and they thought they were too old, but then again there are women in their 70's that are still active. Partners in relationships with large age gaps often find it difficult to relate to their partner's friends, sometimes finding their older partner's friends boring or their younger partner's friends immature. Even if this is not the case, their partner's friends often leave them out of the group, either consciously or subconsciously. Similarly, partners may have different ideas of fun places for dates. As with any relationship, insecurity is one of the main issues which can destroy a happy couple. When in relationships with an age gap, partners often find themselves worrying that their other half will run off with someone their own age.  goodbuddy781
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I always seek men older than myself. Just my preference.
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It’s more about connection than age
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Mr. GOOOdbuddy, What I am finding is that women my age or a little older are looking for men in their 4o's and 50's. In fact very few women are looking for men over 60. I don't think that there is any age in which a woman is considered too old, it all depends on her outlook. I know women that were in their 50's and they thought they were too old, but then again there are women in their 70's that are still active.
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Other comments 8 Gone are the days when men marry and expect the wife to be the cook, laundromat, house cleaner, etc. Any respectable man ought to do them, cook, do the laundry (including hers), clean the house, shop for her sanitary pad if she is unable to, attend to the baby, etc The motto is, serve and be served, love and be loved, etc goodbuddy781
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Other comments 7 Be friendly and unassuming while complimenting. Don't overdo it. If you are paying a woman a compliment and oozing sexuality then you will likely make her feel uncomfortable. As a gentleman you should find tactful ways to praise the attributes of a woman without creating an awkward situation. goodbuddy781
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That is an interesting question! I thought it would all be over when I turned 50, but I was wrong. The older I get, the young men seem to think it's sexy. And yes, I'm a cougar. There is no lack of older men here either. I think a woman can find whatever she's looking for since there are so many more men than women on this site. goodbuddy781
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Other comments 5 move on. There's no trick but tricks of the mind's habits, which you can change. It's worth while embracing someone you loved who will never return, because they cannot or you will never allow them to return into your life. Forgive, love, move on. Having this one life is what you have and no one's partner is their "other half"! You are whole, you are a single organism, you are on your passage, you always were. When someone close can never share your journey, you are still on your passage. Tell yourself that you are and make a conscious effort to not stop loving who you are, don't punish yourself by making the shadow of a former life follow you wherever you go. Say goodbye, keep the memory of love, move the image of yourself to you only. I've managed to maintain my individuality, which I strongly protect and maintain. People who want me want me for who I am and not because I came bundled with someone else - oh, your FancyNancy's other half - NO I'm buddy As far as age is concerned, well that's a really funny thing. When I was 20 I had a girlfriend of 30. I had no idea how much I liked that and for obvious reasons it worked but only until I saw the age difference. Now that I'm older I laugh about myself and how I felt at 20. I have in the past had wonderful, casual relationships with people 20 years younger and it wasn't about "performance" but attitude ,their needs & comfort zone, and most importantly commonality between us. I get on well with people well below and those much older. The s*xual thing is always workable and I have to say that interest and enjoyment is achieved by working out mutual benefits and not "I can only do this and won't do that". You have to work it through. May be the average of an hour every three days of that pleasure should be balanced by realising there are all those other hours when the two of you are deriving other pleasures. With everything balance and moderation is important but communication is essential for success. goodbuddy781
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Other comments 4 Well I can only suggest when one stops looking or expecting then love finds you. As for age differences if I were a fleamale being doted on by a young guy whose virility is still in tact I would give some consideration. Yes you don't want to raise another kid if you have raised your kids already. Even your own children if you have any would look at you kind of strange. Some young studs are still looking for a mom but figure they can entertain a milf for an ego boost. When a guy gets too old and useless or needs little blue pills to make things work I'm sure it is embarrassing along with lack of staying power. As for emotional maturity and stability that is what women expect of a man at middle age. If he doesn't have anything on his plate to offer he's a loser and you are not getting any younger to wait to see what happens. Such as in my case women will be a senior home before they see any results from me. It is why they don't want anything to do with me today. If you find someone within a reasonable age who has much to offer you I would cease the opportunity. She who hesitates is lost. You say you want intelligent conversation and independent good looking men to entertain you who hopefully are not walking with a cane or sitting in wheelchair. Yet, to find someone emotionally and physically healthy even partially wealthy and wise would be an ideal match for any woman. You are a beautiful woman and you deserve goodness and love and beauty surrounds you. If one dares to approach you to offer you kindness be they 25yrs 35yrs or 45 cease the opportunity for she who hesitates is lost. Only minds and hearts truly join. Love is ageless and timeless but, always ever trying to offer healing. Being too selective shows one is not seeking love but someone to feed them what they cannot get for themselves. Never assume a guy who is middle aged is any more mature than a 25 yr old goodbuddy781
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Other comments 3 Older guys go after younger women :Fact . Older women do not want younger guys :fact .. Older guys want younger woman because it boosts their male ego .younger guys go after older women for sex they think your older are wiser and they can learn from you . Of course younger guys are more virile so the sex is great but theres more to life than sex. When your female and 55 yrs or older your chances of meeting an intelligent healthy solvent man are very slim indeed because hell be inundated with younger beautiful women after his money and security and there's not a man on the planet who doesn't want a younger beautiful woman so he can make his friends jealous because that's what he cares about most ,other men's opinions . Men will tell you anything and everything you want to hear to get you into bed and if his performance is below pat hell expect you to put up shut up cos that's what women politely do .my afvice is dont hold out too much hope and you won't be disappointed and in the meantime live your life fully and you'll find the happiest moments hours days sre often spent alone .if you had a good marriage your chances of meeting someone half as good are almost nil .all that will happen is disappointment angst pain it's not worth it . You're an attractive bright woman you don't need a man dragging you down coz most men do esp those on free dating sites . good luck you'll need it in bucket loads goodbuddy781
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Other comments 2 Its almost a 180 degree in belief systems. Young ladys learn after a few experiences realize older men...like their female counterparts are experienced, considerate...longer lasting.. Sure the ...kids..recover quicker but whats to recover after 90 seconds of selfish panting? Go by feelings...if they treat you well, act as they should, have fun!!! If not show them the door!!!! Best of Luck goodbuddy781
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Other comments 1 age these is but a number . I to am recently widowed . and a member of several other free dating sites . and there all the same . so much so I'm close to giving up. but i just get this feeling everyday there might be a message in the inbox . so I've got to look . i do have this feeling women think a man should do all the chasing we are in the twenty twenties now not the sixteen hundreds . it takes two to make a relationship . pic or no pic there all just as bad . so may i suggest if you can find an active 2020 profile on here and you like it give it a go. JUST BE CAREFUL . MUST BE TREATED LIKE A FIREWORK HOLD AT ARMS LENGTH . AND GIVE THEM NOTHING goodbuddy781
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That is an interesting question! I thought it would all be over when I turned 50, but I was wrong. The older I get, the young men seem to think it's sexy. And yes, I'm a cougar. There is no lack of older men here either. I think a woman can find whatever she's looking for since there are so many more men than women on this site.
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