I have been a member of Find a Cougar for many it was a very good site ago. Over the past 8 yrs it has changed drastically with the fake profiles and Find a Cougar paid profiles help keep gold membership up. I have mostly always had a gold membership and I let it laps recently view it from a standard members view. It sucks be very blunt. anyone not aware if you send a IM a standard member can't reply it without a gold membership or so that could be why someone doesn't respond. Find a Cougar went through a time where you could send and reply IM's as a standard then they changing it only 3 a day now it appears none without membership or . As for fake profiles and Find a Cougar paid profiles I get 5 flirts and views a day from oversees and California NY mostly trash which effects people being able interact with real serious simular minded people. Basically Find a Cougar has gone from one of the best swinger sites possible nearly pointless in the last yrs it is sad see the decline.